This Too Shall Pass

The day you will engrave “This too shall pass” in your mind and in your heart, you have succeeded.

“This too shall pass” is a mantra for you to understand that everything in this life is temporary. Your wealth, your health, your status, your relationships…you name it; all is bound to change.

For everything there is a season. A time to cry and a time to laugh. A time to tear down and a time to build up.

Everyone goes through seasons. You are not alone.

Storms Will Come…

When your storm comes, it might feel like you will never get out of it. You will feel like the world has turned against you because nothing is going your way.

Your endless thoughts of why things are not going your way will shroud you with sadness and depression.

You might be lost trying to find your purpose and career life, but you can’t seem to find some direction.

Or you have found it but it has been difficult to accomplish it. You flunked those exams and screwed the interviews.

Perhaps your finances are savage.

Or you have lost a loved one and your heart aches beyond words.

Your life might be upside down – that is your storm.

Whatever your storm is, just remember…

This Too Shall Pass

Embrace your seasons and especially the stormy seasons because that is where most of us breakdown.

We are usually broken because we deny the hard-truth that life is ever-changing. Our hearts get attached to the way things are and it does not expect any changes. But eventually, change comes, storms come and we succumb into depression.

Why do you let your entire being into depression and endless sorrow?

Depression lies, it robs you of your happiness and that little hope to say “this too shall pass”.

Do not give up on yourself because for the many things that are happening around you are out of your control. Life just threw those things on your plate and you are forced to swallow. You have no choice, in as much as you did not want it that way, you have no choice my dear friend but to accept it and pat your chest saying “this too shall pass”.

Never make a permanent decision based on a temporary storm.. No matter how raging the billows are today, remind yourself: “This too shall pass!” – T. D. Jakes

You will wear out your heart by running away from that reality. You will wear out your brain if you try to find answers for everything in your life. It is okay that you do not know, you need not figure everything out.

No hardship or misery is here to last forever. 

When your time to cry comes, cry but remind yourself that it is but temporary because that is the truth, it is temporary.

Expect trouble as an inevitable part of life and when it comes, hold your head high, look it squarely in the eye and say “I will be bigger than you. You cannot defeat me.” Then repeat to yourself the most comforting of all words , “This too shall pass.” – Ann Landers

Until next time, Chao.

Walk Your Talk

“An ounce of practice is worth more than tons of preaching.” ~ Mahatma Gandhi

Do you live what you say or believe in? Do you believe in a healthy lifestyle but eat junk and miss working out all the time? Or you know being productive is best for your growth but only work the night before the deadline? Do you have goals and things you really aspire to achieve but the lazy bone in you is stronger than your will?

Do you really walk your talk? 

Why is there a gap between what you say or value and what you do?

I have had this gap more often than not. It has been difficult for me to walk my talk since my high school days. On Sundays, I would plan a very good timetable for the upcoming week. I would be very excited on Monday morning, full of energy and ready to execute. And then…it remains history.

I knew this was a weakness because there were many things I failed to achieve just because I couldn’t walk my talk. I have tirelessly worked on closing this gap. I haven’t managed closing it, but I have reduced it imminently.

“I challenge you to make your life a masterpiece. I challenge you to join the ranks of those people who live what they teach, who walk their talk.” ~ Anthony Robbins

Focus on Progress

I mostly failed to walk my talk because I focused on achieving it 100% – total perfectionist! It felt as if, if I can’t do it fully, then I shouldn’t even go for it. So I give up even before I begin!

I did not see the beauty of doing it better than yesterday. Of being better than I was yesterday.

I focused on the destination, instead of the path.

It is sad that most of us feel the same.

Change your perspective. We’re imperfect and that is what makes us human and unique. This doesn’t mean we don’t set high goals and aim for the sky, but that we focus on progress and not perfection.

That we strive for growth, improvement, learning.

That we become better than who we are.

Gradually Forego Your Inconsistencies

The best way to walk your talk is to work on letting go of your inconsistencies.

You value healthy lifestyle? Start practicing eating, sleeping, drinking and living a healthy one! Commit yourself 100% in achieving what you value.

If you care for someone, rather than explaining how you care, show them instead.

You value meaningful relationships? Connect with people on a personal level and be genuine with them.

You can say you love someone – but unless you demonstrate that love through your actions, your words become meaningless. ~ Stephen M. R. Covey, The Speed of Trust

Make sure you walk your talk most of the time, at least.

You will inevitably fail to meet your talk most of the times, but you have to have passion and perseverance for your talks.

Let the way you live your life say who you are and not what you say you are.

Until next time, Chao!

Work in Your Time Zone

Are you experiencing a super-paced life in this world full of expectations?

This post is for you.

Lately, I have experienced setbacks on my goals, failed test interviews let alone unforeseen rejection from companies. It has just been few months since I graduated and yet it feels like am losing track of time. There is this “rush feeling” inside of me.

You might be feeling that rush too.

You want to get that unparalleled experience, grow your career very fast, go for higher education, start a family, own a house, drive that latest C-class benz…

As I lay on my bed few days ago, I thought “what’s all this rush for? what exactly am I chasing?”. I remembered my post on Baby Steps I wrote months ago while I was starting this blog.  Reading through was reassuring but it was too brief and focused more on achieving goals.

I needed more inspiration on taking those baby steps.

I thought why not write another one. This one.

The Worlds’ Clock

The world has automatically lured us into it’s own clock.

We must attend school and graduate.

Get jobs at top reputable companies.

Own lands, build houses, drive cars…

Get married.

It is like manual that you can’t miss a step. That’s why you feel the pressure to perform, the pressure to not miss those steps. Because, “what will my family, my friends and the society say of me?”.

We feel the pressure because we keep working with the clock the world has set for us. How can 7.6 Billion people run on the same lane?

We will suffocate.

There is no single clock for everyone

Some graduated at 21 and are still searching for jobs at 30. Others graduated at 25 and got jobs without a sweat.

Some work at international companies but have the saddest life. Others started at humble backgrounds but are contented and happy.

Some own properties and drive luxurious cars, but are lonely deep within. Others walk to work holding hands with their loved ones.

Some married early but waited long to get children. Others married late but were blessed with children immediately.

Julissa says,

“I know people who are in relationships but love someone else. I know people who love each other but aren’t together”.

Work according to your clock

Obama retired at 55, Trump started at 70!

So, Relax!

You are you. Different from everyone else.

You have your own clock, your own timezone.

Don’t feel you have to run by the world’s clock.

Your mates might have gone ahead of you. Do not envy them, they are working in their time zone.

Others might be behind you. Do not despise them, they are working in their time zone.

Everyone is exactly where they are! Including you!

Be aware of who you are, what you are capable of, your strengths, weaknesses and opportunities. The rest is about time, wait for that.

You’re okay where you are. You might not appreciate your small efforts right now but someday you will.

Your time is coming. Stay focused and stay true to yourself. You are not late, you are on time.

Until next time, Chao!

Believe in Yourself

I never knew there is power deep within ourselves. I often saw people doing great things and I believed they were just great naturally.

I read many amazing stories of great people like Muhammad Ali, Tony Robbins, Nick Vujicic…. But it all ended up there. It somehow always felt so fictional albeit very motivating. I just couldn’t understand what is inside these great humans that I didn’t have.

What did they have that they shook the world with their unrivaled footsteps?

The turning point of my life

After I joined high school, I never had a clear vision to be successful. I was just another teenage girl who joined school and that’s it. I pretty much understood that I can just study a little and “pass”, which was quite enough. So in my first term I just played around with my friends, having lots of fun in boarding school and being a “mono” – a form one student.

At the closing ceremony of the end of the term, they called out the top 10 students awarding them with stationery and other good stuff. I was just seated somewhere in the crowd clapping not understanding how they were the best students “were they studying like seriously or just some naturally bright students?”. It somehow stuck in my heart but I kind of neglected it excited I am finally going home. 100+ students had A’s, I was nowhere there.

We always had exams on the first week of a new term, just to make as read during the holidays and report to school on time. On the opening I reported to school late because I waited for my friend, we just somehow didn’t care much about the repercussions of missing exams and we braved ourselves “they are just gonna make us re-sit for those exams”. Unfortunately, that never happened, so we had just sat for few papers. Results? With those 0 in some subjects, you don’t want to know!

To avoid being retained in school for bad grades during holidays, I resolved to study harder. I doubted that I could make it. But I had to do something, “I can’t stay for extra tuition when everyone else go home!”, I told myself. After lots of hard work and persistence, I passed just enough to not be retained for tuition. It was unbelievable for me, did I just do that? Does it mean I have the capability to do better? It then dawned on me, “we choose what we want to be in life”. That was the U-turn of my academic life and I can vow, that every other aspect of my life changed.

I now understood what the likes of Muhammad Ali had. Without a doubt, they had immense belief in themselves!

It wasn’t that I could not have better grades, it was that I never believed I could have them.

I chose to shut down all the voices within me that always said; “they are naturally brilliant, you ain’t that just chill”.

Vincent van Gogh said;

“If you hear a voice within you say ‘you cannot paint,’ then by all means paint, and that voice will be silenced.”

I silenced that voice. I nurtured my mind with thoughts of greatness. I started believing in myself and in the power within me.

I never listened to what other people said. It didn’t matter. I knew what I am and what I am capable of doing on my own.

It ain’t just about academics…

You might be thinking, is professional academics all that there is in life? No its not. We are all gifted in our own ways. For me, it was books that made me understand the power within myself. That I have the capability to be who I want. I can study hard and be that doctor, that architect, business-lady…it’s all up to me. The key to what I want to be is in my hands.

Whatever your line of profession is, the bottom line is, do you believe you are in control of who you become in the next 10 years?

The biggest difference I’ve noticed between successful people and unsuccessful people isn’t intelligence or opportunity or resources. It’s the belief that they can make their goals happen.

You get to choose which road you will take.

Choose the road that will unleash your potential.

Believe in You

Self-doubts won’t disappear into thin air just like that. You just have to get better at dealing with it. James wrote this beautiful article; What I do when I feel like my work isn’t good enough.

Every time you want to try new things, doubts will creep in. But do not follow your doubtful thoughts.

There is no one who can pump you better than yourself. You know you better.

When it gets tough, recall your successes. Find your way back to your inner you and know you have the power to achieve what you want in life.

Until next time, Chao!

Nurture Your Mind With Great Thoughts

I have not known anything powerful as a man’s thoughts.

They make or destroy you.

I think you’ll agree with me when I say: your mind defines you.

Isn’t it fascinating that you can change your worldview with your mind?

Negative Thinking

We all from time to time sulk into negative thoughts.

We fall into the circus of our own thoughts and see everything as a mess!

“I wanted to go swimming but it’s raining. Arrrgh! Nothing ever goes my way!”

“She didn’t pass by to say hello, she doesn’t like me!”

“I studied but I don’t think I will pass that exam.”

“I don’t think I will nail that interview, I really have no skills needed.”

Alas! You often are drowning in this ocean of your own negative thoughts.

“You will never be free until you free yourself from the prison of your own false thoughts.” ~Philip Arnold

How do I stop negative thoughts?

Getting negative thoughts off your brain is easier said than done.

It begins with you realizing that your thoughts are negative.

And that they are not helping you in anyway. They are rather a disease to your heart.

Separate your thoughts from facts. If it is raining, and you cannot go swimming, do not attach that to yourself. It totally has nothing to do with you.

Louise Hay says;

“I monitor my self-talk, making sure it is supportive and uplifting for myself and others.” ~ Louise Hay

Accept that life is challenging and that there is no smooth road. Face life head on and learn to accept how things turn out.  You always plan but God’s plan prevails.

If it didn’t work out this time, do not think “I am never lucky”. Instead think “I will do better next time”.

Healthy Thinking

We can’t think positively every time. Bad things happen to us.

We get fired.

We lose a loved one.

We fail terribly at things we thought we are good at.

And sometimes, sometimes, we just feel we suck at everything.

Really, we just can’t be purely positive people.

But we can switch our thoughts into a healthy one. Where when things happen to us, the good, the bad, the neutral – we look at the entire situation with clear glasses and not rose-colored glasses.

It means we approach life in a balanced way.

Developing healthy thinking will help you in many ways than you may realize. You will experience growth you have never imagined. You will also boost your confidence and feel your chest light-weight, ready to take on new challenges and improve yourself.

You’ll be happy. Because you have no thoughts to pull you down.

Benjamin Israeli said;

Nurture your mind with great thoughts, for you will never go any higher than you think.

Do NOT entertain negative thoughts or doubts in your head. You don’t have that space for negativity.

You can only go as far as your thoughts.

Think highly of yourself. Change your world by harnessing the power of healthy thinking.

Until next time, Chao!

 

Fan Your Sparks Into Flames

“Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.” – Arthur Ashe

We all have dreams, but not all of us dream enough to achieve them.

In fact, we have lost hope in them and we are just living for the sake of living. “Yeah whatever life brings.” So long as we eat and have a roof on our heads, that’s good enough.

Indeed, it is hard. 🙁

With all the challenges that we face in our day to day life, can we even speak about our dreams?

Let’s kindle anew in our mind and hearts the sparks of our dreams.

Dreams

Henry Ford didn’t wait for an opportunity to favor him, despite being poor and uneducated. To date there are more wheels under his name than any man who ever lived.

Thomas Edison lived his dream of a lamp after more than 10,000 failures.

Ray Kroc turned McDonald’s into the most successful food outlet in the world making him one of the richest men of his time. He was only a salesman of milkshakes.

The Wright brothers dreamed of a machine that would fly. Today, there exists a fleet of such.

Well, these people were great and brought great inventions. But, we really don’t like being compared to “great people”. It intimidates us. But it’s okay. They had bigger dreams….

What do you dream of?

Is there someone you know who lived their dreams?

Don’t you wish to live the life of your dreams everyday? Even if it is only your family or friends who will know about it?

Dreams Don’t Matter…

It isn’t about the idea…big or small. You don’t have to be Thomas Edison. You don’t need to revolutionize the world with a “wow” dream.

Brilliant dreams are good but it isn’t what matters. It is good if you have it, at least it shows you are still alive inside of you. But what is the importance of a dream that just remains to be a dream?

How to live your dreams is what matters.

If your dreams just sit back in your mind, that is where they will forever live.

Execution matters…

We all have dreams. But in order to make dreams come into reality, it takes an awful lot of determination, dedication, self-discipline, and effort. – Jesse Owens

You’ve got to live your dreams. No matter how small they are. It maybe small to the world but they maybe everything to you.

To live your dreams, you’ve got to consider many things because it ain’t a smooth road to go after your dreams. But remember, you need not figure everything out.

It is overwhelming to think of all things at once. To look around us and see people going for their dreams effortlessly, while here we are stuck not knowing what direction to take; and what was my dream again?

We mostly are at crossroads.

So, let’s take some baby steps.

Find Your Calling. Search within you and find your sparks. Along the way your dreams may change. You will want different things at different times because you keep evolving. Understand that that is okay. All you need to focus on, is how to achieve those dreams, of course, with calculated risks.

Get rid of anything that is a barrier to you achieving your goals. Give up your bad habits.

Commit to working on yourself. Someone somewhere alongside their day to day work, takes time to read more, to have a healthy lifestyle, to sharpen their skills. Someone has committed to having healthy and meaningful relationships. Someone is set to go back to school and advance their knowledge. Let that someone be you.

You’ve found your dream. You’ve given up your bad habits and are now committed to improving yourself. Now build a plan to achieve them. How are your daily activities helping you achieve that dream? We all ignore this part, thinking that it is a waste of time. Successful people ask, “What’s the one thing I can do today that will get me closer to my goal?”

Highly successful people don’t wait and hope for desired results. Success is never accidental for them. It’s the direct result of preparing, planning, and aligning their time with their most important goals.

Dream achievers have a clear vision of what they want and a strategic plan to carry out their mission.

Now,

It’s on you to flame yours sparks into flames, to flame your dreams into reality.

Light your little world.

Until next time, Chao!

You Need Not Figure Everything Out

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I miss being that kid who cared less about what is happening in the world. Being that super energetic human being who only cared about being happy. Where we all had big dreams and ambitions just by seeing what others have become.

I wanted to badly be a neurosurgeon after reading “Think Big” and all the series of Ben Carson. So, I kept telling my mum how I am going to operate people’s brains and help them with their illnesses. I didn’t even know what it takes to be one, but it didn’t really matter at that point in time. All I knew was, I am going to be a neurosurgeon. Period!

My friends had big dreams too. I am 99.99% sure, you had them too.

And here we are today, wishing it was as easy today as it was before. We’ve all grown up in different worlds under different circumstances and now with responsibilities on our shoulders. We’ve all forgotten how to just sit and be happy and with life moving at ninety miles per hour, we are forced to move with twice that speed for us to survive.

It is no longer a matter of pen and paper, it is as real as it gets. A point in time where you feel you are walking on a rope, one mistake and you are done for.

Living with the unknown…

For many of us, living without knowing what is in for us for the future, is dreadful. You are anxious, imbalanced and on your feet all the time.

You are afraid you will miss out on what you are meant to do. Deep down you know you want to do great things, but what exactly? You keep searching for your path, which at present seems very vague and blurry.

You don’t know what to do. Perhaps, you know a little of everything good you want. A well paying job. Great physique, healthy life, great social life (you’ve imagined going for that awesome holiday with friends because you are financially free), loving family, spiritually stable…

But, you don’t know where to start from. Everything is everywhere.

On top of it all, you just want answers. And you want them right now!

Hold on my friend!

Why are you trying to figure everything out?

You want to know what steps will lead to your success, happiness and whatever else you desire? You want guarantee that whatever tree you plant today will bear sweet fruits tomorrow?

Sorry friend, there is no guarantee in this life.

Your constant need to “figure out everything” only gives you more pain and suffering. Your mind and heart is not capable of understanding everything and having all the answers.  You will end up frustrated and exhausted.

So What Now?

Dance in the fog my friend! There is a circle of clarity within the fog, dance where you can see. As you keep moving forward, your circle of clarity goes with you. You will see more, when you get there.

They say “trust the process”. You need to take that to heart, deeply.

You can’t plan out your whole life.

It’s not to say we stop to think about our life. It is important to have direction, to have dreams and ambitions. It is important to have that drive, that grit and passion that keeps your fire burning. But it is not important to have all the answers in our palms. True well being does not depend on know-it-all.

Your “figured out” world could fall apart and your dreams could crash. You can fail at your well-laid out plan you thought would be your road to success or happiness. You could be completely wrong about everything you have “figured out”.

So stop trying to fit the puzzle. Just live your life. Letting go, as uncomfortable as it is, inevitably allows you to experience life without guilt, stress or pain.

“Cease trying to work everything out with your minds. It will get you nowhere. Live by intuition and inspiration and let your whole life be Revelation.” – Eileen Caddy

Keep in mind, you can’t figure it all out, because such is life, a puzzle. So, learn to let go and swim with the currents.

Self-reflection: Can you trust that your life circumstances, even though you can’t always explain them, are here for your awakening?

Until next time, Chao!

 

7 Things I’m Giving Up For A Greater 2018

We’ve all had different experiences for the last one year or so. For some it has been great, they have ticked off many achievements, and for some, it has been a downfall. I personally have been in between. I have achieved great things, but on the flip side, there are many things I personally noted to have been my drawbacks for the last one year.

I am a great believer of “there is no challenge greater than challenging to improve yourself”, so I gave a deep thought to the habits I desperately want to get rid off for a “better me”.

And here are 7 things I am working on giving up this year;

1. Making Excuses

Sure, I make a whole lot of excuses and have not done a dozen of things thanks to my laziness. Excuse are a justification for inaction and laziness. But, for a greater and better life, we must start doing what needs to be done, whether we feel like it or not.

For whatever goals in pipeline this year, no more excuses!

2. Unhealthy Lifestyle

Hooooooly! This one is every year’s goal, however I keep hearing “more fries” instead of “more exercise”. More fries, packing on pounds, more sleep, more laziness. I can’t say it any better, I know you feel me! For the last one year, I have been skipping lunch so I can have an early dinner and call it a day. I have since been a victim of gastric, constipation, fatigue and all sorts of body weakness, including mental tiredness.

Alas! It is time to plan for what and when to eat. It is also a year to kick-start consistent exercise for a healthy body and mind.

That is just half of it, the other half of unhealthy lifestyle is too much screen-time. It is time to replace screen-time with this things.

3. Wasting Time

No excessive series and dramas. They are the same old story.

No excessive sleep, Too Young To Sleep.

We all get 24 hours, but some people are far ahead of us because they spend every second they have in a meaningful way. We should spend our time on things that directly improve our personal lives. Everything else is a potential time waster.

Most importantly, to utilize our time doing things at the top of our priority list. Stephen Covey says, First Things First.

4. Believing I’d be happier if I get this or that

The last 12 months have been full of anxiety for me because I keep postponing relaxation and enjoyment until I am done with or I get something I have planned for. Before that, I am too focused on accomplishing what I have set that I jeopardize my own happiness.

I forget that such is life, we will always be chasing one thing after the other.

Let’s live in the moment and live a fulfilling life while working on our life goals.

5. The Need to Control Everything

The greatest control, is in letting go the need if it.

I’ve noticed I use a lot of energy and time planning and predicting things I shouldn’t be. I think of when I should do laundry, trying to perfectly time the time when there will be no people at the laundry bay. And how it will be so unfortunate if I find a long queue. And if I find a long queue, what is plan B? I mean, I spend my very limited time planning for every possible thing!

I calculate everything so that it will work in my favor. When I say everything, I mean every-thing.

We tend to control everything because we think of what will happen if we don’t. So what if it doesn’t happen the way we want?

It is time to let go the need to control every little thing. Things go much smoothly when you let go the need to control them.

“You must learn to let go. Release the stress. You were never in control anyway.” ~Steve Maraboli

6. Fear of Missing Out (FOMO)

The grass is always greener on the other side, they said. But the grass on our side is green too right? So why the uneasy and sometimes all-consuming feeling that we’re missing out – that our peers are doing, in the know about, or in possession of more or something better than us?

We sometimes experience where we wish we were somewhere else, with certain people, doing different things; that’s okay! But these feelings shouldn’t make us feel we are missing out on something. We are at the right place, with the right people and at the right time. If you were to be somewhere else, trust me you would have already been.

7. Being Too Hard on Myself

I have been incredibly hard on myself for the last few months. It would have been enough if it just ended with school, but I am still too hard on myself.

I seldom allow myself to just “wine and dine”. But even when I do, somewhere in my head there is that thought “you should be applying for that and this, you should prepare for that interview…”.

It isn’t bad to remind yourself of your goals and keep your feet on the ground, but we need to take time off and appreciate what we have accomplished, instead of focusing on what we haven’t accomplished yet.

It is time to ace the self-loving thing. Don’t starve your soul from play and relaxation.

So, have you any habits you wish to give up?

Do not hesitate to meditate on the things that are dragging you from your path to greatness. Do not ignore the toxic habits because you are afraid of change. Change is scary, because we are too comfortable in our cocoon. We need to get out and evolve.

Wean yourself off those habits! You will thank yourself later.

Until next time, Chao!

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Whatever You Are, Be A Good One

Whatever you are, be a good one. – Abraham Lincoln

What you do, in life, doesn’t matter. How you do it, is what matters.

Whatever You Are…

It is high time we start embracing every other role in the society. The presence of variety of roles and responsibility is what unifies us. Without doctors we would all die of sickness and without janitors we would all suffocate to filth. We all need each other, for some reason

“Whatever” – means “of any kind”. The position you hold, or the role you play as an individual is not where the meat lies. Because in reality, everyone has a position or a role in this society.

Far too often, we lack the appreciation or an understanding of just how important every one matters in the society. There is no one important job over the other. All occupations matter, but of course you are responsible for your choice of occupation.

You are a teacher,

You are a nurse,

A barber, Chef, Tailor, Firefighter, Tailor, Janitor, Mechanic…you name it.

It doesn’t matter.

On the other hand, we hold positions that are in human nature, the greatest gift of responsibilities we have. Our social relationships with others.

You are either a parent, spouse, a brother, sister or a friend to someone. That, that, is something to value and hold responsibly.

Be A Good One…

Regardless of the position you hold or the responsibility you have, perform it to the very best of your ability.

In your line of work, do your best.

If you are in corporate, let the company know that they have the best field officer, accountant, human resource fellow, secretary, engineer…

Given you are a tailor, let people line-up at your shop waiting for their beautiful dresses, gowns and bespoke suits.

If you are a teacher, be the best teacher. Let your students be your topmost priority ensuring they learn what is necessary and they perform to the best of their ability.

As a student, do your best in your studies. Give it your all because at that point in time, that is your duty, to work hard and excel.

In your line of responsibility, do your best.

If you are a parent, you have to be the best parent ensuring whoever calls you mum or dad receives utmost care and massive amount of love.

If you are a spouse, it is your duty every day to look out for your partner and to constantly commit to your spouse regardless of the present circumstances. You should make it your priority to ensure your relationship is healthy and that your spouse is your number one.

If you are a sister or a brother, it is upon you to reach out to your siblings and look after their well-being. It is your duty to be the first to respond to their call for help.

As a friend, because you are, you have to make time to deeply connect with your friends. By deeply I mean, really knowing who they are within them and not what you see outside. Many people are friends just on the surface. They meet, eat and merry but in reality, they don’t know who their friends truly are.

Make your relationships worth it!

Appreciate your occupation and make it count!

So stop looking at what you are, it doesn’t really matter. Do your best and most importantly, do it with all your heart.

Whatever you are, be a good one!

Until next time, Chao!

If You Understand This, You Are Set for Life of Your Dreams

There is no an iota of doubt that knowledge is power.

Since I embarked on the journey to read as often as I can, I have had a lot of “ah-ha” moments that have turned my world-of-thoughts around. For couple of years, my thoughts were aligned in one direction and I believed I was right and no one should change my thinking. Until I flipped pages of uncomfortable truths, deep insights and emotions, then I awoke from my slumber.

Here are some realizations I woke up to. I haven’t experienced all of them deeply but to some extent. Some are still hard to absorb in me like #5, while some like #3 have empowered me to stand when the grounds are shaking.

1. You and you alone are responsible for your life.

Really? Yes!

Everything about your life is a result of you doing or not doing…your health, physical fitness, feelings, achievements, quality of your relationships…everything!

Excuses and blames will comfort you temporarily, but you will never be fully contented because deep down you know your life is in your hands.

Cease attributing your problems to people, environment or circumstances and silence your unhelpful inner voice from rehearsing the excuse-filled conversation.

You are in charge of how you feel, choose to feel great even when people have crossed your path.

Your Life, Your Rules. It is your decision to make. Bob Moawad says; “The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own. No apologies or excuses. No one to lean on, rely on, or blame. The gift is yours — it is an amazing journey — and you alone are responsible for the quality of it. This is the day your life really begins.”

2. Take chances, make mistakes.

You are afraid you are not prepared. You are afraid you will fail or give up on the way.

I took the chance to start writing after years of thinking I someday will. I suck at it. But guess what? In the mean time, I will keep sharing my imperfection with you and find a way to perfect my imperfection while I keep soaring. How’s that?

“’It’s impossible,’ said pride. ‘It’s risky,’ said experience. ‘It’s pointless,’ said reason. ‘Give it a try,’ whispered the heart.” ~Unknown

Of course no one likes to jump into a dark hole. But, how I wish life was full of colorful light bulbs so we could see the end.

Unless you are satisfied with your life, you have to take that leap of faith.

You don’t have to be Muhammad Ali to start boxing. But you have to start now if you want to be like Muhammad Ali at some point in your life. That decision to start is what matters the most. Take small steps towards achieving what you want in life.

Stop waiting for all your ducks to be in a row to start something new.

And you can’t just quit after your first disappointment. It is rare to get it right at the beginning. You have to go all the way to the end. You must be gritty to achieve the best in life.

3. Life is a roller coaster

A perfect life? Even Cinderella worked like a house-help before becoming a princess.

Just like in a roller coaster, you will be screaming when you start to fall.

There is no such thing as a perfect life. Today you are up, happy and things are working well for you. Tomorrow you are down overwhelmed with sadness, anxiety and challenges. Some of the things you have really worked hard for, may not work out as you planned.

None of us are safe from the disappointments of life. Life is unpredictable.

Do not be crippled by your down moments in life. They are there to make you stronger. Embrace them and never give up.

Just like a muscle needs to tear to grow stronger, sometimes we need to wade into our own darkness to find a brighter light.” ~Lori Deschene

4. Your obstacles are your stepping stones

It is a sure deal, you will face obstacles in life.

You probably see obstacles as barriers to your success. When you run into difficulties, you straight away want to run away from it.

To achieve your goals, you have to change how you perceive obstacles. You have to start seeing them as an opportunity for growth.

Ryan Holiday says;

“We forget: In life, it doesn’t matter what happens to you or where you came from. It matters what you do with what happens and what you’ve been given.”

You just need a little more persistence and a little more effort to overcome all your obstacles.

5. Perfectionism is your Barricade

We plan, plan and plan to avoid mistakes and blame.

Undoubtedly, It is good to plan your life but do not live your life on the drawing board. Make sketches, get up and go live your life.

Perfectionism will cripple your journey to living your life fully. It is a barrier to your happiness and fulfillment because you are too focused on the result and not the process. You tell yourself you are not good enough so you keep trying harder. You don’t stop for a moment to tap your own back.

Cut yourself some slack! Quit trying to be perfect.

“Do your best and let the rest go. You can’t be perfect, no matter how hard you try, so give yourself credit for making an effort and try to stop stressing about the outcome.” – Lori Deschene

Be a perfectly imperfect being!

Until next time, Chao!

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